Psychological Abuse Against Women

Psychological abuse is based on intentional behavior, executed from a position of power and designed to devalue, produce psychic damage, destroy self-esteem and lower self-confidence. His suffering leads to depersonalization, while generating unit the person who inflicts. The abuser uses for it with insults, accusations, threats, destructive criticism, cries, manipulations, silence, indifference and contempt. In the private sphere, while men suffer too, women are the majority victims. Also occurs in the relationship of parents with children, which has detected an increase of abuse of children on their parents, resulting from an increasingly permissive education and the use of violence in conflicts around the world adults. In the public sphere, psychological abuse is present in the workplace, known as "mobbing" and in the school, the "bullying". The woman, the main victim psychological abuse are an old phenomenon. What is new is its denunciation as a social problem. The suffering women of all ages, social and economic groups, cultures and countries. Its high incidence, severity of sequelae, the high social and economic development, especially the degradation that results in violation of the right of people to be treated as such and respect that every human deserves to make them a matter of high public profile.

They are not as visible or manifest as physical. In fact, many times the victim is unaware of them until they suffer physical aggression, but its consequences can be serious and lasting in time. Sometimes the victim is not aware of these abuses until it is physically assaulted continued aggressions, both verbal and nonverbal (silence, indifference, gestures left ...), create a relationship of dependency between the abuser and the victim. Both end up needing. The victim because one feels that he is nobody and fear and anxiety paralyze, and the perpetrator because someone feels it is through the domination exercised. The dependence is such that the victim ends up protecting and excusing the perpetrator. Walk up there in a destructive process that is losing confidence in itself and responsiveness, will be canceling and internalize that there does not leave and abandon all hope.

Asymmetric power at the root of violence against women is evidence of the asymmetry of power that has led to the prevailing sexist and patriarchal system, which has led to abuse with the most disadvantaged in this scheme, women. Therefore, experts do not affect present the problem as "women" as though they are the ones who suffer, it is a difficulty which men have to be aware and must work to overcome it. The psychotherapist Luis Bonino, specialist for over three decades in masculinity and gender relations, has developed a classification that identifies behaviors to try to gain dominance, intimidation. Sudden Take control: making decisions without consultation, to monopolize. The appeal to logic and argument "reason" to impose ideas or choices. The insistence of abuse, in order to get what you want to exhaustion in exchange for some "peace." The control of money. The expansive use of physical space. The women's mothering, ie the creation of conditions for it to give priority to caring for other people. The emotional manipulation, which generates in women self-doubt and negative feelings and fosters dependency.

Disqualifications involving helplessness. The disavowal and devaluation that generate feelings of inferiority. Paternalism from which women are treated like a child. The lack of privacy. The estrangement. Lies, broken promises ... The indulgence with which the perpetrator avoids his own responsibility. The attempt to generate pity through self-injurious behaviors or threats of suicide. Portrait of a woman mistreated psychological symptoms and manifestations of back and joint pain. Irritability. Headache. Insomnia. Permanent fatigue. Sadness, depressed mood and desire to mourn for no apparent reason. Anxiety and distress. Sexual appetite. Attitude feeling of shame. Feelings of guilt. Widespread fear. Maintaining a fleeting glance. Communicative social neglect and scarcity: explanation vague and confusing. Warning signs or evidence derived behaviors to psychological abuse (According to the psychiatrist Murphy and O'Leary) ignores the feelings of the couple. Ridicules or insults women as a group. Ridicules or insults the majority of the values, beliefs, religion, race, class inheritance or partner. Use their approval, appreciation or affection as punishment. Continually criticizes you, you names or yells. Humiliate you in private and / or in public.

Rejects social relationships in your company. Control the money and all the decisions. Refuses to share the money or you work. It allows access to money or car keys or other property. Often threatens to leave or say they are going. Threaten to hurt you or your family. Punished or abused children when they are angry with you. Threatening to kidnap or take the children if you leave. Abuse, torture, kill pets to hurt you. Harassing you with issues that he imagines that you are doing. He manipulated with lies and contradictions. Destroy furniture, does damage in the walls or broken household items during discussions with you. Handle weapons in a threatening manner. Source: http://revista.consumer.es/web/es/20050201/interiormente/ Image: Rafael Cutò - Argentina

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